“It is, at the most basic level, a bundle of contradictions: a desire for power that strips you of all power. A gesture of strength that divests you of all strength.” - Marya Hornbacher

Many people in my life, some family, friends, therapists, nutritionists, school counselors, teachers and various advisers have often questioned my past, where I've been, but few take the time to  inquire about where I am and where I'm going. I can relate my recovery to the Wizard of Oz and their yellow brick road. I never get off the road, but I also don't always go forward. The stops along the way, obstacles I face, are very much related to the characters found on the journey. There are times I feel as if I don't have a brain because I literally cannot think, remember or form words. Others, I feel as if I don't have a heart, emotionless and much like a tin man. And courage is probably the most important of the three, something I lack in most situations.
It's clear that I wish to graduate from George Mason University's undergraduate program and anyone who has ever taken the time to get to know me knows that I aspire to attend medical school in the future. But something someone recently asked was what recovery meant to me. This is a concept that I never really took seriously, but I've started realizing that at this point on the yellow brick road, it's something I should be spending every minute of every day thinking about. I can't necessarily put a concrete definition to the word, aside from textbook criteria.
What I can do is think of all the daily bothers and simple struggles that have turned into what seems to be a never ending battle within myself. For starters, I would like to wake up and get out of bed without having to run my finger over every protruding bone in my body, counting the ones I feel and comparing them to yesterday's observations. I would like to shower without feeling the need to do squats while washing my hair, get dressed in less than a half hour and put one simple layer of make-up on instead of three complex. I wish to one day be able to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner without thinking of each and every calorie touching my lip and head straight to my ass, and getting through a meal without envisioning the nearest toilet, sink or shower. I want to drink coffee because I truly enjoy the taste and not just as the only source of energy I can bear to intake.
To me, standing in front of a mirror and being able to look at the person staring back at me without criticizing her every flaw and obsessing over the imperfections, without pinching every ounce of skin covering the bones and being able to smile means recovery. On a more "health" recovery, I wish to one day fall asleep without listening to the stomach acid crawling up my esophagus, burning the inside of me. Falling asleep and staying asleep for more than just a few moments is also a goal. I want to run because I love it, not to lose weight. 
For now, I am trying to survive each day, but I am sick of being sick and don't want to simply survive, but live.
A journey of 1,003 miles begins with a single step.

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